The Secure Self
How to Free Yourself from Anxious Attachment and Transform Your Relationships from Within
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The Secure Self
Narrated by:
Stephanie Rigg
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Narrated by:
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Stephanie Rigg
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Stephanie Rigg
Relationship anxiety doesn’t only surface during conflict. It lives in the waiting, the monitoring, the second-guessing, and the deep exhaustion of longing to feel safe with another person. For those with anxious attachment patterns, connection can feel fragile—something that must be continually earned through reassurance, proximity, or effort.
In The Secure Self, Stephanie Rigg, a relationship coach and host of the world’s leading attachment podcast, On Attachment, offers readers a different path: one that leads not toward fixing their relationships, but toward first building something more foundational—a secure relationship with themselves. Drawing on years of guiding thousands of clients and students, as well as her own lived experience of anxious attachment, she reframes this attachment style not as a flaw, but as a pattern rooted in a deeply human need for connection—one that, once understood, can begin to shift towards something steadier and more secure.
Throughout the book, readers are guided to:
- Understand how anxious attachment fuels overthinking, hypervigilance, people-pleasing, and emotional reactivity
- Build internal safety through self-compassion, nervous system regulation, healthy boundaries, and self-trust
- Navigate dating, relationships, and breakups with greater confidence, clarity, and self-respect
- Create healthier, more balanced relationships from a grounded sense of self rather than fear
Rather than focusing on fixing partners or managing relationships more carefully, Rigg guides readers inward, step by step, toward building the internal foundations that anxious attachment erodes.
Grounded, compassionate, and deeply practical, The Secure Self invites readers to stop looking outward for the security they’ve always longed for and to start building it from within—so that love becomes something that expands rather than completes them.
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