Trigger warning: This episode contains discussions of childhood trauma, abuse, human trafficking, addiction, and suicide. Please listen with care.

🎙️ Victim 2 Victor: Trauma, Relationships and Learning That Love Doesn’t Have To Be Earned | Anu Verma

In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, I sit down with trauma recovery coach, therapist, author, podcaster and filmmaker Anu Verma to explore the lasting impact of childhood trauma and what healing can really look like.

Together we discuss how traumatic experiences can shape our relationships, self-worth, nervous system and sense of identity long into adulthood. Anu shares her personal journey of recovery and offers insight into trauma bonds, people-pleasing, unhealthy relationship patterns, emotional healing and nervous system regulation.

We also explore whether trauma can be stored in the body, how childhood experiences can influence the partners we choose later in life, and why so many survivors feel they need to earn love rather than simply receive it.

This episode includes an important discussion inspired by Anu’s conversation with Hannah Shewan Stevens on sexual violence against women, the lack of support available to many survivors, and the long-term effects trauma can have on both physical and emotional wellbeing.

Topics covered include:

✨ Childhood trauma and its lasting impact

✨ Trauma stored in the body

✨ Sexual violence and recovery

✨ Trauma bonds and relationship patterns

✨ People-pleasing and the “fixer” role

✨ Self-worth and validation

✨ Nervous system healing

✨ Fight, flight, freeze and fawn responses

✨ Emotional resilience and recovery

✨ Learning that love doesn’t have to be earned

Whether you’re navigating your own healing journey, supporting someone who has experienced trauma, or simply wanting to better understand the connection between trauma, relationships and recovery, this episode offers compassion, insight and hope.

📌 Connect with Anu Verma:

https://victim2victor.net/

Have you ever had a great day out, enjoyed yourself, laughed, socialised, and then felt completely exhausted afterwards?

In this episode, I talk about why so many AuDHD and neurodivergent people need recovery time after social events, busy weekends, and even enjoyable experiences.

From masking and sensory overload to social exhaustion and nervous system overwhelm, I share my own experiences of attending events, navigating social situations, and dealing with what I jokingly call the “AuDHD hangover.”

If you’ve ever wondered why you need time to recover after being around people, why your social battery drains so quickly, or why enjoyable events can still leave you exhausted, this episode is for you.

Topics include:

• AuDHD and social exhaustion

• Masking and burnout

• Sensory overload

• Recovery time and self-care

• Nervous system overwhelm

• Neurodivergent experiences

🌿 Be gentle with yourself.

recently stopped me in my tracks.

Someone said they hate TikTokers who make fun of ADHD and AuDHD.

It got me thinking about the way I talk about neurodivergence online and why I choose to share not only the funny and relatable moments, but also the difficult realities of living with AuDHD.

In this episode, I talk openly about:

• Living with Autism and ADHD (AuDHD)

• Being sectioned as a teenager before understanding what was wrong

• The impact of executive dysfunction on everyday life

• Debt, relationships, burnout and mental health struggles

• Masking, shame and being misunderstood

• Why awareness needs to include the hard parts, not just the relatable memes

• The importance of honest conversations about neurodivergence

I recently Googled my own name and found a description that said I share my experiences of AuDHD, including “the shit parts” — and honestly, that might be the most accurate thing ever written about me.

This episode is a reminder that AuDHD isn’t quirky, cute or trendy. For many of us, it has shaped every part of our lives. By sharing the reality, I hope to help others feel seen, understood and less alone.

#AuDHD #ADHD #Autism #Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity #LateDiagnosis #ExecutiveDysfunction #MentalHealth #AutisticAdult #ADHDAwareness #AutismAwareness #AuDHDPodcast #NeurodivergentWomen #RejectionSensitiveDysphoria #Mas

As an AuDHD woman, I genuinely thought mindfulness was a pile of rubbish.

My brain was too busy, my thoughts moved too fast, and every time someone suggested meditation, I felt like they clearly didn’t understand what it was like to live with a neurodivergent mind.

In this episode, I talk honestly about why I resisted mindfulness for years, why I felt like I was failing every time I tried it, and what finally helped me see it differently.

This isn’t an episode about becoming perfectly calm or clearing your mind. It’s about learning that mindfulness can look very different for neurodivergent people, and how a few small changes helped me become more aware of stress, overwhelm, anxiety and burnout before they completely took over.

If you’ve ever thought mindfulness wasn’t for you, you’re definitely not alone.

Topics include ADHD, AuDHD, Autism, Neurodivergence, Mindfulness, Meditation, Emotional Regulation, Anxiety, Burnout, Overthinking, Mental Health, Self-Awareness and Late Diagnosis.

💜 Ellie

Today I discovered something that filled me with a whole new level of guilt, dread and panic…

A spam message folder.

Now, to most people, that probably doesn’t sound like a big deal. But to a recovering people pleaser with AuDHD, discovering messages from people who thought I’d ignored them has sent my brain into overdrive.

The reality is that I never imagined so many people would reach out to me.

Every day I receive messages about ADHD, autism, AuDHD, diagnosis journeys, parenting, relationships, mental health, burnout, masking and life in general. I am incredibly grateful that people trust me enough to share their stories, but if I’m honest, it also comes with a level of pressure that I wasn’t prepared for.

In this episode, I talk openly about the guilt of unread messages, the impossible standards we place on ourselves, people pleasing, rejection sensitivity and what happens when your desire to help everyone collides with the reality that you’re only one human being.

If you’ve ever felt guilty for not replying, struggled to keep up with messages, or felt responsible for everyone else’s feelings, this conversation is for you.

And a quick disclaimer…

If you ever need to speak with me directly and it’s something important, please don’t rely on social media messages alone. The best way to guarantee dedicated time with me is through my website.

You can book:

✨ Discovery Calls

✨ Podcast Features

✨ Brainstorm Sessions

✨ Body Doubling Sessions

✨ Mentoring & Support Appointments

That way, I know you have a dedicated space in my diary and can give you my full attention.

Maybe some of you are reading this thinking, “Why on earth would I want to talk to her?”

Honestly… I still don’t fully understand that either. 😂

But if you do, the option is there.

🌈 Book here:

www.ellieaudhd.com

#AuDHD #ADHDPodcast #AutismPodcast #PeoplePleasing #ADHDWomen #Neurodivergent #ExecutiveDysfunction #RejectionSensitiveDysphoria #AuDHDLife #MentalHealthPodcast #BodyDoubling #ADHDSupport #AutismSupport #Neurodiversity

🌍✈️ New Podcast Episode: Neurodivergent Travel ✈️🌍

Nerodivergent travel

I recently had the pleasure of speaking with Jemma from who is passionate about making travel more accessible, enjoyable, and inclusive for neurodivergent people and their families.

During our conversation, we explored the unique challenges that many neurodivergent travellers can face, from sensory overwhelm and disrupted routines to the importance of planning, flexibility, and finding environments that truly meet individual needs.

One of the key messages from our discussion was that there is no “one size fits all” approach to travel. Every neurodivergent person is different, and creating positive travel experiences starts with understanding, adapting, and recognising those individual needs.

We also talked about how travel can support confidence, independence, wellbeing, and personal growth when the right support and accommodations are in place.

A huge thank you to Jemma from Nerodivergent Travel for sharing her expertise, experience, and passion for helping neurodivergent people access meaningful travel opportunities. It was an insightful and inspiring conversation, and I know many of our listeners will take away valuable tips, encouragement, and practical advice.

🎧 Listen to the full episode on your preferred platform by visiting:

www.ellieaudhd.com

From there, you can choose to listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, YouTube, Audible, and more the episode is called Neurodivergent Travel: Accessible Holidays for Autistic, ADHD & Neurodivergent Families | With Jemma from NeuroDivergent Travel

If you’ve ever wondered how travel can be made more accessible, inclusive, and enjoyable for neurodivergent people and their families, this is an episode you won’t want to miss.