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Not As We Planned

Not As We Planned

By: Tash Gershfield & Carly Harris
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New episodes every Thursday, with exclusive bonus episodes every Monday on Patreon.

Welcome to Not As We Planned, the honest podcast about relationships, dating, marriage, divorce and motherhood, and all the things no one really talks about.

From becoming a mum and navigating divorce, to rebuilding life as a single mum and dating again in your 30s, we’re sharing the real, messy and unexpected sides of it all.

Life doesn’t always go to plan, and neither do relationships. This is a space for open conversations, shared experiences and saying the things most people avoid.

If you have a question or want to share your story, email us at notasweplannedpodcast@gmail.com


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Episodes
  • My Best Friend Lied To Me For 10 Years…

    My Best Friend Lied To Me For 10 Years…
    Jul 8 2026

    What would you do if you found out your best friend had been lying to you for over a decade?


    In this episode, we unpack one listener’s shocking story, review another dating profile, help a man navigating struggles in his marriage, and talk about the common mistake people make by confusing emotional unavailability with chemistry.


    If you’ve ever questioned your relationships or your dating choices, this one’s for you.

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    44 mins
  • He Faked Cancer While I Was Pregnant

    He Faked Cancer While I Was Pregnant
    Jul 1 2026

    She thought she’d finally found her happy ending.


    After blending their families and welcoming a new baby together, everything seemed perfect… until she discovered the man she loved had been living a shocking double life.


    This week, we read one of the most unbelievable stories we’ve ever received, hear from a listener trapped in a controlling relationship after 12 years together, and discuss why your gut instinct is often trying to protect you long before your mind catches up.

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    52 mins
  • He Ghosted Me For 5 Weeks… Then Came Back Like Nothing Happened

    He Ghosted Me For 5 Weeks… Then Came Back Like Nothing Happened
    Jun 24 2026

    He disappeared without a word for five weeks… then came back expecting another chance.


    This week, Carly opens up about the emotional reality of co-parenting, we help a listener decide whether she’s holding on to someone’s potential instead of who they really are, hear from a woman who discovered her partner’s affair while she was eight months pregnant, and ask one very satisfying question… what happens when your cheating ex gets cheated on?

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    38 mins
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