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Pillow Talks

Pillow Talks

By: Vanessa & Xander Marin
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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!2024 Hygiene & Healthy Living
Episodes
  • E266: Ask a Sex Therapist (Part 3) Sex Pillows, Squirting, and Standing-Up Sex

    E266: Ask a Sex Therapist (Part 3) Sex Pillows, Squirting, and Standing-Up Sex
    Jun 25 2026
    You send us your most "I can't believe I'm actually asking this" questions, and we live for it. So we're back with the third edition of Ask a Sex Therapist, going rapid-fire through as many of them as we can, with real answers, tips, and stories. No question is too awkward, too niche, or too "is it too late to ask this at my age?" 💛 In this episode, you'll hear: What "tossed salad" actually means, because it's never too late to ask How to tell if you're about to squirt or pee, and whether squirting is even real Is the G-spot orgasm real? We settle it Sex pillows and spit as lube: the honest yes-or-no on both Why standing-up sex never seems to work, and how to fix it Why a partner might go soft when you're on top Strap-ons as a tool for guys facing performance pressure Whether it's worth shaking things up when your sex is already great If you've ever sat on a question because it felt too weird to say out loud, consider this your permission slip. Chances are, someone else is wondering the exact same thing. 🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES Get the TABU Pillow Comfortable, discreet, and actually changes the angle in ways that make a big difference . We’re obsessed. 👉🏻 [INSERT LINK] 💦 Variety is the spice of life (and your sex life) Ultimate Sex Positions is our guide to over forty illustrated positions, with step-by-step help getting into, out of, and moving in each one. Over 40 positions with clear, illustrated, step-by-step guidance The fixes for the ones that never seem to work (standing-up sex, we see you) Toe-curling, bedsheet-gripping experiences built for both of you Plus the secret to actually craving more sex 👉🏻 Check out Ultimate Sex Positions here: https://vmtherapy.com/ultimatesex 💪 For the guys: no shame in your game The Modern Man's Guide to Conquering Performance Pressure gets into what's happening in your brain and your body, so sex feels good instead of stressful. A holistic approach to performance anxiety and erections Real help for early ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and going soft Build genuine confidence in your technique For hotter, more satisfying sex, minus the stress 👉🏻 Check out The Modern Man's Guide here: https://vmtherapy.com/modernman 💛 Stay Connected 📸 Follow us on Instagram → https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander 💌 Get our weekly email, real talk, expert tips, and zero shame → https://vmtherapy.com/subscribe 🎧 Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you get your podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 1 min
  • E265: Is This Cheating? (Part 3) Emotional Affairs, Secret Texts, and Sneaky DMs

    E265: Is This Cheating? (Part 3) Emotional Affairs, Secret Texts, and Sneaky DMs
    Jun 18 2026
    Have you and your partner ever actually sat down and defined what counts as cheating? Most of us never do, which is exactly why the gray areas get so complicated. We're back with Part 3 of Is This Cheating?, weighing in on your trickiest, most "wait, is that okay?" scenarios. 💛 In this episode, you'll hear: Why every couple has to define cheating for themselves, and the talks most people skip Real listener dilemmas: late-night drives, a secret sex-shop trip, and disappearing text threads The female-friendship situations that blur the line between platonic and something more Our honest take on the big one: does masturbation count as cheating? A rapid-fire round on nudes, dating apps "for friends," flirty DMs, and drunk Vegas kisses Why this is the perfect episode to play for your partner and talk through together If you've ever felt unsure whether something crossed a line, you're not overreacting and you're not alone. The clearer you get on your own definition, the easier these conversations get. 🕯️ Want more connection, intimacy, and spark in your relationship every single month? The Spark is our monthly membership that delivers fresh, low-lift ways to connect, flirt, and keep things exciting. New prompts and ideas delivered to you every single month Designed to spark real conversation and connection, together Low commitment and big payoff, for just a few dollars a month Perfect if tonight's episode has you wanting to reconnect with your person 👉🏻 Check out The Spark here: https://vmtherapy.com/spark 💛 Stay Connected 📸 Follow us on Instagram → https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander 💌 Get our weekly email, real talk, expert tips, and zero shame → https://vmtherapy.com/subscribe 🎧 Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you get your podcasts! ========================== THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS ========================== 👏Thanks Quince. Elevate your summer wardrobe. Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada too. ➡︎https://quince.com/pillow 👏Thanks Cozy Earth. This spring, give yourself the kind of comfort that lives with you all day — not just the moment you get home. Use code PILLOW for an exclusive 20% off. If you get a Post-Purchase Survey, be sure to mention you heard about Cozy Earth right here!➡︎https://cozyearth.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    57 mins
  • E264: What Women Really Think About... Part 3

    E264: What Women Really Think About... Part 3
    Jun 11 2026
    So we're back with Part 3 of What Do Women Really Think About…?, giving you the honest answers women don't always say out loud. From the mental load to mirror selfies, nothing’s off limits. 💛 In this episode, you'll hear: Whether women actually want a "book boyfriend," or if that fantasy is better left on the page? The real deal on mental load: is it running in the background every single day? Cum on the face: hot, not, or total depends? We give you the honest answer. Dick pics and mirror selfies: what reads as sexy vs what gets an instant delete? Blowjobs before a shower: the candid take you've been too shy to ask about. Why women open up to their friends about their sex lives so freely? Getting finished with hands or fingers: thoughtful move, or last-ditch effort? Here's the thing: the questions that feel embarrassing to ask are usually the ones everyone else is secretly wondering too. You're not weird for being curious. You're just paying attention. 🍆 Ready to be the best they've ever had? The Ultimate Foreplay Guides are our step-by-step guides to using your hands and mouth on your partner in ways that will blow their mind. Clear, no-guesswork techniques for fingering, oral, handjobs, and blow jobs. Separate guides for vulvas and penises, so you know exactly what to do. Built to take you from unsure to genuinely confident. Perfect if today's questions left you wanting to level up. 👉🏻 Check out The Ultimate Foreplay Guides here: https://vmtherapy.com/foreplay 💛 Stay Connected 📸 Follow us on Instagram → https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander 💌 Get our weekly email, real talk, expert tips, and zero shame → https://vmtherapy.com/subscribe 🎧 Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you get your podcasts! ========================== THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS ========================== 👏Thanks Quince. Elevate your summer wardrobe. Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada too. ➡︎https://quince.com/pillow 👏Thanks StoryWorth. This year, give Dad a gift that captures who he really is, before the stories get harder to remember. Father's day is Sunday, June21st. Order RIGHT NOW and save up to $20. ➡︎https://storyworth.com/pillow 👏Thanks Cure. Not all hydration is created equal. Cure does it right with simple, clead ingredients and flavors worth reaching for all summer long. Use the code PILLOWTALKS for 20% off. Find Cure now at target this summer! Real ingredients. Real Hydration. ➡︎https://curehydration.com/PILLOWTALKS 👏Thanks Remi. Protect your teeth with Remi by using code PILLOW to get 50% off your new night guard with Remi Club Subscribe & Save. ➡︎https://shopremi.com/PILLOW Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 5 mins
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I follow Vanessa and Xander on Instagram and love watching their stories and posts. I was really excited about their podcast when it came out and it didn't disappoint. So nice to listen to more in depth information about relationships and sex. The podcast is so easy and enjoyable to listen to!

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