Somewhere along the way, modern dating stopped being about connection and started becoming a marketplace.

Everybody is “high value.”Everybody thinks they deserve better.Everybody is ranking humans like stocks.And somehow… nobody is happy.In this episode, we’re talking about how the internet’s obsession with “high value men” and “high value women” is destroying dating, inflating egos, confusing standards with entitlement, and keeping people disconnected from reality.This isn’t about “settling.”It’s about self-awareness.Compatibility.Reciprocity.And dating people who actually align with you instead of chasing status, validation, or fantasy.Because dating on your level isn’t an insult.It’s usually where real relationships begin.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

Most men think women become “annoying,” emotional, controlling, or nagging out of nowhere.But a lot of the behaviours men complain about are actually responses to inconsistency, broken trust, poor communication, and emotional imbalance in the relationship.Because the truth is:A lot of women don’t actually want to control everything.They just stopped feeling like they could rely on you.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithmeWATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/LAVrT9Q2CKg🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

You’re not “chill.”You’re just afraid to lose them.You think you’re playing it cool but really, you’re overthinking every text, holding back what you feel, and pretending you don’t care… Just to keep someone around.In this episode, I break down the difference between real detachment vs. self-abandonment and why acting “low maintenance” is actually what’s keeping you stuck in shallow, unsatisfying connections.Because here’s the truth:You don’t lose people by being “too much.”You lose yourself by trying to be just enough.If you’ve ever:- Held back your feelings so you don’t scare someone off- Acted unbothered when you actually cared- Felt disconnected in a relationship but didn’t know whyThis is for you.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

If you’ve been hurt in past relationships… this is the episode you need to hear.Most people think they’re healing… But they’re actually keeping their wounds open.Waiting for closure.Waiting for an apology.Waiting for someone to finally say:"You were right. I was wrong."But here’s the truth no one wants to admit:No one is coming to save you.And the longer you wait… The longer you stay stuck in the same patterns, the same pain, and the same relationships.In this episode, we break down:- Why you can’t move on (even when you try)- The illusion of “closure”- How your past is silently controlling your dating life- And what it actually takes to heal and move forward-This one might hurt… but it will help.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 WATCH to the podcast:https://youtu.be/UkBCj94ItdE🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

You showed up. You cared. You supported them. You tried to be the best partner possible… and somehow they still pulled away.In this episode, I’m responding to a listener submission from someone who feels like they always do everything right in relationships — thoughtful, supportive, emotionally available — yet their partners eventually lose interest and run.So what’s actually happening?We’re breaking down why doing more for someone doesn’t necessarily create more attraction, how over-investing early can quietly shift relationship dynamics, and why being the “perfect partner” can sometimes backfire.If you’ve ever heard “you’re amazing but…” or felt like you were the one carrying the relationship emotionally, this conversation will probably hit home.In this episode, we talk about:• Why over-giving can reduce attraction• The hidden problem with trying to prove you’re a great partner• Why some people love being chosen but struggle to choose back• How to stop over-investing in the wrong peopleIf this pattern keeps repeating in your dating life, this episode might explain why.💬 WORK WITH ME(coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

Wanting a relationship and being ready for one are two completely different things.A lot of people say they want love, commitment, and a serious partner — but their lifestyle, habits, and behaviour make a healthy relationship almost impossible.In this video, we talk about the real reasons someone may not actually be ready for a relationship yet.Healthy relationships require more than attraction. They require emotional discipline, accountability, and the ability to build something with another person.If you want a serious relationship but keep repeating the same patterns, the work usually starts internally.If you're serious about becoming relationship-ready and building something real, I work privately with clients inside my mentorship.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

She didn’t just “lose interest.”

Attraction doesn’t disappear randomly. It shifts when the dynamic shifts.

In this episode, I break down the real reasons women pull back after being interested — and it’s rarely about looks, money, or another guy.

If women seem interested at first and then suddenly distance themselves, it’s not bad luck. It’s behavioural patterns you may not be aware of.

And the good news? Patterns can be corrected.

If you’re serious about understanding attraction and building a healthy long-term relationship, I work privately with clients inside my 3-month mentorship.

Apply here: https://www.edenmitelman.com/mentorship

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If they looked average… you probably would’ve left by now.

But because they’re attractive, you start tolerating things you normally never would. Disrespect. Inconsistency. Mixed signals. You tell yourself “it’s complicated” when the truth is a lot simpler: you’re emotionally attached to the validation.In this episode, we’re talking about the real reason so many people stay stuck in bad relationships—and it has less to do with love, and more to do with physical attraction and the way attention from an attractive person makes you feel about yourself.

Because you’re not addicted to them.

You’re addicted to the feeling of being chosen by someone you find desirable.

And the longer you stay in these chaotic dynamics, the more your nervous system starts confusing anxiety with chemistry… and peace with boredom.

So now healthy partners feel “meh,” and toxic ones feel exciting.

We’re breaking down:

- Why physical attraction can cloud your standards

- The psychology of validation addiction

- How chaos starts to feel like chemistry

- Why you keep going back even when you know better

- How to retrain your nervous system for healthier love

If you’ve ever said, “I know they’re bad for me, but I just can’t let go,” this episode is for you.

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