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Love Thy Neighbor Show

Love Thy Neighbor Show

By: Tom Vann Dan Dennis and Colette Fehr
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Love Thy Neighbor is a straight-talk relationship show from Tom Vann, Dan Dennis, and licensed therapist Colette J. Fehr - born the day Colette knocked on their door and they realized they were literal next-door neighbors. Together, they bring 50 years of broadcasting (Dan 30, Tom 20) and 15 years of clinical counseling (Colette), plus real-life reps: Tom's 20-year marriage, Dan's 15-year marriage, and Colette's second, thriving chapter. Expect humor, empathy, and practical advice from both sides of the wall. New episodes every Thursday, wherever you get your podcasts.2025 Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
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  • LTN 38 - Prenups & More

    LTN 38 - Prenups & More
    Jun 25 2026
    Divorce rates are falling while marriage rates also decline. Younger adults marry and divorce less often. Gray divorce is rising among older couples. High living costs keep some unhappy couples together. More couples choose lifelong partnerships without legal marriage. Some couples hold weddings without filing marriage paperwork. Legal marriage offers emotional value but financial risk. Silent marriages often continue for children or money. Empty nesters often reassess unhappy marriages. Midlife creates urgency to improve relationships. Life after 50 compared to the "back nine" in golf. Fix your marriage before chasing a fantasy relationship. Personal accountability matters more than finding a new partner. Some marriages cannot be repaired despite real effort. Emotional abuse and neglect can make divorce necessary. Relationship maintenance is easier than crisis repair. Avoiding hard conversations weakens marriages. Personal growth carries into future relationships. Starting over often feels easier than it is. Second and third marriages have higher divorce rates. Divorce can normalize future breakups. Children often model their parents' relationships. Many long marriages become happier after difficult years. Men often remarry faster after divorce. Married men often live longer and healthier lives. Funny discussion about anal fissures and embarrassing doctor visits. Women initiate most divorces. Celebrity divorces often become business negotiations. Divorce is one of the fastest ways to lose wealth. Loneliness and feeling unheard drive many divorces. Jelly Roll and Bunnie XO relationship discussion. Bunnie XO's IVF struggles. Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce prenup rumors. Wealth changes how couples approach marriage. Prenups protect finances without reducing commitment. Movie discussion about marriage, betrayal, and divorce. Story of a husband leaving his wife during COVID. Infidelity can leave spouses emotionally and financially vulnerable. Couples should openly discuss financial protection. First and second marriages handle finances differently. Shared assets feel different when couples grow together. Humor about losing a home after divorce. Accepting loss helps emotional healing. Later-life marriages often protect premarital assets. Inheritances are a common reason for prenups. Patrick Mahomes and Brittany Mahomes built wealth together. Athlete endorsements create massive wealth. Celebrity prenup speculation and personality jokes. Kermit the Frog bedroom voice humor. Most divorces begin with emotional pain, not money. Financial fear often prevents divorce. Stay-at-home spouses may fear financial independence. Personal story of leaving a marriage without seeking support. Career growth can restore confidence after divorce. Financial hardship changes views on prenups. Women should understand household finances. Some marriages still have one partner controlling money. Some men struggle when wives out-earn them. Healthy couples celebrate each other's success. More wives are primary breadwinners. Women are becoming more educated and earning more. Equality benefits both partners. Raise boys to respect strong, successful women. Men often struggle with emotional communication. Emojis can soften text conversations. Genuine affection matters more than emojis. Physical affection and verbal affirmation build stronger relationships. Small daily efforts strengthen marriages. Humor about inappropriate emoji combinations. Promotion for The Cost of Quiet. Promotion for Insights from the Couch. Promotion for Colette's FOX 35 Orlando appearances. Appreciation for the show's chemistry and conversations. ### Social Media https://tomanddan.com https://twitter.com/tomanddanlive https://facebook.com/amediocretime https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive Where to Find the Show Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mediocre-time/id334142682 Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2FtZWRpb2NyZXRpbWUvcG9kY2FzdC54bWw Tom & Dan on Real Radio 104.1 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-corporate-time/id975258990 Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2Fjb3Jwb3JhdGV0aW1lL3BvZGNhc3QueG1s Exclusive Content https://tomanddan.com/registration Merch https://tomanddan.myshopify.com/
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    46 mins
  • LTN 37 - Men's Mental Help Month

    LTN 37 - Men's Mental Help Month
    Jun 20 2026
    Father's Day gift preferences vs traditional gifts Men and women valuing appreciation differently Joke about sexual favors as Father's Day gifts Father's Day overlapping with Men's Mental Health Month Growing up where men never discussed mental health Stigma around men prioritizing mental and physical health Mental health historically viewed as weakness in men Fitness culture acceptance vs mental health resistance Importance of raising awareness for men's mental health Depression and anxiety affecting many men Less than half of men seeking mental health treatment Men accounting for roughly 80% of suicides Highest suicide rates among men over 75 Suicide as a leading cause of death in young men Encouragement to talk with friends, family, or therapists Using humor to avoid difficult mental health conversations Misunderstanding suicidal ideation without lived experience Avoiding judgment of people with depression Fear that vulnerability makes men appear weak Men suppressing pain and handling problems alone Depression often appearing as anger and irritability Chronic anger as a sign of underlying depression Recognizing mental health warning signs in men Checking in on struggling friends and family Older generations taught to suppress emotions Similar depression and anger patterns across generations Accepting personal mental health tendencies Different emotional baselines and brain chemistry Therapy improving emotional awareness Mental health maintenance like physical health maintenance Social media and news contributing to anxiety Dopamine-driven habits that worsen mental health Depression making daily tasks feel overwhelming Men often benefiting after reluctantly trying therapy Need for cultural change around emotional openness Men bonding through activities more than conversations Women more likely to discuss struggles with friends Encouraging men to share vulnerabilities with other men Stoicism vs unhealthy emotional suppression Trauma, personality, and brain wiring debates Concerns about amateur psychoanalysis on social media People being experts on their own experiences Traditional Florida masculinity discouraging vulnerability Feeling different from family due to anxiety Mental health conditions affecting everyone differently Treating mental health instead of comparing experiences Early intervention preventing severe outcomes Greatest Generation culture of emotional stoicism Some people naturally having healthier emotional baselines Therapy helping those with depression and anxiety Friends providing emotional support like preventive care Mental health treatment compared to managing cholesterol Medication stigma and resistance Medication helping during a difficult divorce Loneliness contributing to older male suicide rates Retirement causing loss of purpose and identity Importance of relationships and meaning later in life Summer vacations creating unexpected stress Family vacation frustrations reflected in movie tropes Small changes making vacations more enjoyable Dominator partner planning every vacation detail One partner handling all logistics and itineraries Planner resentment when responsibilities pile up Whether non-planners should contribute more Discussing vacation roles before traveling Feeling ignored when suggestions are repeatedly dismissed Rejected partners eventually disengaging Vacations with kids feeling like work Returning from vacations more exhausted than rested Resentment from carrying unspoken responsibilities Rejecting help while feeling overwhelmed Asking directly for help instead of expecting mind reading Communication solving many vacation conflicts Pressure to be a super parent who does everything Teamwork becoming more important in marriages Expressing feelings of being unsupported Emotional withdrawal after repeated criticism Road trips with kids glued to devices Technology easing travel but increasing screen dependence Couples struggling to find new conversation topics Long-term relationships running out of fresh discussions Conversations becoming limited to kids and work Escaping into earbuds and distractions during drives Discussing future goals and dreams together Planning adventures creating excitement and connection Debating future vacations during current vacations Anticipation as one of the best parts of travel Healthy couples discussing hopes and aspirations Bringing new ideas and experiences into relationships Avoiding conversational ruts in long-term partnerships Maintaining individual interests and personal space Solo time for reading, audiobooks, and recharging Independence strengthening family relationships Challenging each other with fresh perspectives Early risers vs late sleepers on vacation Different vacation styles causing tension Maximizing activities vs relaxing slowly Feeling vacation time is being wasted Quiet resentment from unmet expectations ...
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    47 mins
  • LTN 36 - Couples Therapy 101

    LTN 36 - Couples Therapy 101
    Jun 11 2026
    Therapy recommendation changed a listener's life eight years later Therapy vs using alcohol to cope with stress and emotions Returning to therapy after emotional strain affected a marriage Benefits of talking with someone outside the relationship Mental health stigma and growing up without therapy discussions Therapy compared to hiring a trainer for mental fitness Realization therapy helps more than just people in crisis Relationships and mental health are closely connected Why "we never fight" is not a relationship success metric Martin Short's marriage discussed as a relationship role model Using exceptional couples as inspiration for growth How to find a good therapist or couples therapist Examples of bad therapy, boundary issues, and unethical behavior Couples therapy during a marriage on the brink of divorce Importance of therapist training and specialization Why good couples therapists avoid taking sides Therapist fit, trust, and comfort for both partners More couples seeking therapy before major problems arise Therapy for communication, intimacy, and conflict skills Parenting, illness, and family stress impacting relationships Trauma, abandonment, addiction, and neglect affecting partnerships Why therapy should feel safe, supportive, and practical Couples therapy becoming more preventive than crisis-driven High cost of therapy and barriers to access Why couples therapy requires extensive training University clinics offering free or low-cost counseling Sliding-scale, pro bono, and community therapy resources Psychology Today directory for finding therapists Telehealth making therapy more accessible Expensive therapists are not always the best therapists Insurance limitations and mental health coverage problems UCF counseling clinics as a local low-cost option Does therapist age and life experience matter? Personal experience vs evidence-based treatment models Listener success story using the UCF clinic Why one therapy session rarely solves major issues Benefits of combining individual and couples therapy Healthy couples using short-term therapy tune-ups Long-term therapy for infidelity and deep disconnection Therapy compared to learning skills from a personal trainer Books, courses, and self-help options for couples Gottman Institute resources and relationship education When self-help works and when professional help is needed Using insurance directories to find covered therapists Looking for LMFT credentials in couples counseling Employee Assistance Programs offering free sessions Struggling to find available therapists during high demand 988 crisis line and mental health resources Interviewing therapists before committing Asking how much of a therapist's practice is couples work Why couples therapy is a specialized field Evidence-based models like Gottman, EFT, RLT, and Imago Humor as a powerful relationship-building tool Shared laughter strengthening marriages and families Stress and productivity reducing connection and creativity Making time for playfulness and fun during busy seasons Parenting, school schedules, and daily obligations causing strain John Gottman's relationship research and lab studies The Four Horsemen: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling Predicting relationship outcomes from interaction patterns Negative sentiment override explained Relationship bank account analogy for emotional goodwill Assuming the worst when resentment builds Using laughter and connection to prevent relationship decline Addressing problems early before resentment grows Relationship maintenance compared to cleaning a house Regular repair conversations building resilience Shared laughter as a sign of safety and connection Being intentional and present with loved ones Family games and quality time as meaningful experiences Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith relationship discussion Chris Rock's response to the Oscars slap Entitlement, fame, and emotional regulation Physical aggression as unhealthy conflict resolution Coercive control, dominance, and abusive relationship dynamics Road rage and other examples of poor emotional regulation Listener questions, relationship resources, and future topics Comparing show personalities to Howard Stern show roles ### Social Media https://tomanddan.com https://x.com/tomanddanlive https://facebook.com/amediocretime https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive Where to Find the Show Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mediocre-time/id334142682 Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2FtZWRpb2NyZXRpbWUvcG9kY2FzdC54bWw Tom & Dan on Real Radio 104.1 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-corporate-time/id975258990 Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2Fjb3Jwb3JhdGV0aW1lL3BvZGNhc3QueG1s Exclusive Content https://tomanddan.com/registration Merch https://...
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