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  • From Survival to Creation: Meeting Crisis Through the Light

    From Survival to Creation: Meeting Crisis Through the Light
    Jun 25 2026
    Get the Episode Companion Guide Here!In this episode of The New Ashla Podcast, Justin V. Gates and Michael Perry explore how crisis can either collapse us into survival or awaken a deeper creative power within us.Crisis has a way of revealing what has been leading beneath the surface. When pressure rises, fear can take over, old patterns can return, and the nervous system can move into panic, control, or avoidance. But crisis can also become a doorway. It can sharpen clarity, reveal courage, interrupt old patterns, and call forth a version of us that knows how to respond instead of simply react.Drawing from the teachings of Ashla, this conversation reframes crisis as a test of awareness, alignment, and self-mastery. Not because suffering is good, but because even in difficulty, the Light can reveal the next right step. Justin and Michael discuss how fear can become either panic or courage depending on where we aim it, why not every moment deserves our full alarm, and how to keep truth, purpose, and Light as the target when life becomes uncertain.This episode is a reminder that crisis does not have to become collapse. With awareness, discernment, and aligned action, pressure can become creative power, fear can become courage, and difficulty can become a doorway into transformation.Key topicsCrisis as a reveal of inner strength and patternsThe role of fear and old patterns in crisisHow faith and trust influence our responsePractical exercises for managing crisis energyThe importance of self-awareness and responsibilityGet the book here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/4ADHZyA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/NewAshla⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/JustinVGates⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@justinvgates?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.youtube.com/@KnightsofAwakening⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.youtube.com/@TemplumLumis⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠⁠www.newashla.comTakeawaysCrisis reveals our true self and dormant patterns.Fear can either collapse us or fuel our growth.Maintaining awareness and trust guides us through crisis.Companion guides help reflect and integrate lessons.Facing crisis with courage transforms challenges into opportunities.Keywords: survival to creation, crisis and healing, turning fear into courage, creative power, spiritual growth, self mastery, emotional regulation, crisis response, nervous system, fear and anxiety, conscious response, Ashla, New Ashla Podcast, Justin V Gates, Michael Perry, the Light, the Force, Luminari, shadow work, inner work, spiritual alignment, crisis as a doorway, fear into courage, awareness, discernment, purpose, right action, personal transformation, emotional resilience, healing through crisis, pressure and growth, faith in crisis, walking in the Light
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    39 mins
  • When Death Comes Close: Grief, Gratitude, and the Sacred Work of Living

    When Death Comes Close: Grief, Gratitude, and the Sacred Work of Living
    Jun 23 2026

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    In this episode of The New Ashla Podcast, Justin V. Gates and Michael Perry explore what happens when death stops being an abstract idea and becomes something real enough to change how you see your life.

    After discovering that one of the arteries in his heart was roughly 95% blocked, Justin shares the emotional and spiritual impact of undergoing a stent procedure, facing mortality, and learning how to return to life after a serious health scare. This conversation is not only about the medical event itself, but about the deeper questions it awakened: What happens when you realize your body is not invincible? How do you process the possibility of leaving people behind? How do you grieve what could have happened while still being grateful for the life that remains?

    Justin and Michael discuss anticipatory grief, the fear of being absent from those who still need you, the empathic weight of feeling everyone else’s fear and love, and the strange spiritual tension of knowing death is not the end while still honoring the human ache of separation.

    Through the teachings of Ashla, this episode becomes a reflection on grief, gratitude, mortality, and the sacred responsibility of living. Death may not be the end, but life is still holy. The body still matters. Love still matters. Presence still matters. And when death comes close, the invitation is not to live in fear, but to live more honestly, more fully, and more awake.

    This is a conversation about the warning, the wound, the gratitude, and the Light that remains.

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    Key topics

    • Confronting mortality and its emotional impact
    • The role of purpose and legacy in life
    • The importance of gratitude during health crises
    • How near-death experiences shift perspectives
    • The connection between health, mindset, and spirituality

    Takeaways

    • Facing death can deepen our appreciation for life and loved ones.
    • Gratitude illuminates the grief and fear, providing clarity and peace.
    • Living in alignment and purpose can transform our experience of mortality.
    • Unfinished conversations and relationships are amplified when mortality is near.
    • The body is not invincible, but the soul's invincibility offers comfort.

    Keywords: brush with death, near death experience, health scare, heart stent, blocked artery, mortality, grief, gratitude, anticipatory grief, fear of death, spiritual reflection, life after health scare, healing journey, emotional healing, Ashla, New Ashla Podcast, Justin V Gates, Michael Perry, the Light, the Force, grief and gratitude, sacred living, spiritual growth, living after the warning, death and dying, mourning, empathy, health and spirituality, heart health, choosing life, inner peace, life is sacred
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    48 mins
  • When Independence Turns Into Isolation | Avoidant Attachment Explained

    When Independence Turns Into Isolation | Avoidant Attachment Explained
    Jun 18 2026
    Episode CompanionAvoidant Attachment | Attachment Series Part 2You’ve always been fine on your own. You handle things. You don’t ask for much. You don’t burden people.But somewhere along the way, “I’ve got it” became a wall.In this episode of The New Ashla Podcast, Michael Perry and Justin Gates explore avoidant attachment: how it forms, what it protects, and how it can quietly turn independence into isolation.Avoidant attachment is not coldness. It is not a lack of love. It is often a survival strategy built by people who learned that needing others was unsafe, disappointing, inconvenient, or unreliable.Michael and Justin break down how avoidant attachment shows up in relationships, why closeness can feel threatening, and how people can begin opening up without losing themselves in the process.Topics Covered:What avoidant attachment is really protectingWhy independence can become emotional armorThe difference between emotional regulation and suppressionHow avoidant attachment shows up in relationshipsWhy closeness can feel like losing autonomyThe anxious-avoidant relationship dynamicHow logic, stoicism, achievement, and self-control can become shieldsLearning to ask for help without feeling weakBecoming both strong and openKey Takeaways:Avoidant attachment is not an absence of love or need. It is often a learned form of self-protection.Being able to survive alone is not the same thing as being healed.Independence is healthy when it is a choice, not when it becomes a wall.Avoidant people often care deeply, but learned not to express it because vulnerability once felt unsafe.Connection does not have to mean losing yourself. Healthy love expands who you are rather than erasing you.Healing starts with small moments of honesty, trust, and allowing yourself to receive support.Exercise: One True ThingThink of someone in your life you trust, even a little.This week, tell them one true thing something real about how you feel, what you are struggling with, or what you actually need.It does not have to be big. It just has to be true.Say something you would normally keep to yourself, handle alone, or avoid mentioning. Then notice what happens in them — and in you.Affirmations:I am strong enough to ask for help.Letting people in does not mean losing myself.My needs are not a burden. They are part of being human.I can be close to someone and still be whole.I am learning that vulnerability is not weakness. It is the door to everything I actually want.Journaling Prompts:When did you first learn that needing people was not safe? What happened, and what did you decide about yourself or others because of it?Is there something you have been handling alone that you could let someone else into, even partially? What stops you?What would it mean for your life if being close to someone did not require giving something up? What might become possible?Sound Bites:“Being able to survive alone is not the same as being healed.”“Independence becomes armor.”“You can be strong enough to stand on your own and open enough to receive love.”“Letting people close does not mean becoming weak. It means giving yourself what you needed all along.”Keywords: avoidant attachment, attachment styles, anxious avoidant trap, emotional intimacy, relationship healing, self-protection, vulnerability, emotional regulation, independence, interdependence, healing relationships, self-awareness, nervous system, love and autonomy, New Ashla Podcast, Path of AshlaConnect: Michael Perry | Justin GatesFollow: TikTok | New Ashla
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    34 mins
  • Stop Losing Yourself in the Fear of Losing Love Anxious Attachment | Attachment Series Part 1

    Stop Losing Yourself in the Fear of Losing Love Anxious Attachment | Attachment Series Part 1
    Jun 16 2026

    Episode Companion Guide

    In this episode of the New Ashla Podcast, Michael Perry and Justin Gates begin the attachment series with anxious attachment...where it comes from, how it shows up in relationships, and how to start building safety inside yourself instead of constantly needing proof that you are loved.

    Anxious attachment is often misunderstood as being clingy, needy, dramatic, or “too much.” But underneath the behavior is usually a nervous system trying to feel safe in connection.

    Michael and Justin explore how anxious attachment forms when love feels inconsistent, unpredictable, or conditional. They discuss how it can show up through reassurance-seeking, overthinking, people-pleasing, conflict creation, fear of silence, and mistaking chaos for chemistry.

    They also talk about the path back to security: learning to pause before reacting, building self-trust, creating autonomy outside the relationship, and recognizing the difference between real intuition and nervous system activation.


    Key Takeaways:

    • Anxious attachment is not a character flaw — it is a learned survival strategy.
    • Reassurance can help temporarily, but healing requires building internal safety.
    • Fear can feel like chemistry when your nervous system is used to chaos.
    • Slow replies, silence, or tired tones are not always signs of rejection.
    • Secure attachment does not mean you stop needing love. It means you stop losing yourself in the fear of losing love.


    Exercise: The Pause Window

    The next time you feel the urge to send a message, make a call, check your phone, or seek reassurance, pause before acting.

    Take a few breaths. Let your nervous system settle. Ask yourself:

    Am I reaching out because there is a real concern, or because I need reassurance right now?

    You do not have to shame the urge. You are simply creating space between activation and action. That space is where healing begins.


    Affirmations:

    • I am allowed to need connection and still trust that I am enough.
    • My worth doesn’t depend on someone else’s response.
    • I can tolerate uncertainty without it meaning something has gone wrong.
    • I am becoming someone who trusts love, including the love I give myself.
    • My nervous system is learning. I don’t have to be healed to be okay right now.


    Journaling Prompts:

    • Think about a recent moment where you sought reassurance. What were you actually afraid of underneath the surface, and where have you felt that before?
    • What would it look like to act from security instead of fear in one relationship in your life right now?
    • What is one story you tell yourself when someone goes quiet or pulls back? Where did you first learn to tell that story?


    Keywords: anxious attachment, attachment styles, secure attachment, relationship anxiety, nervous system regulation, reassurance seeking, emotional healing, self-trust, relationship patterns, people pleasing, fear of abandonment, inner safety, New Ashla Podcast, Path of Ashla


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    37 mins
  • The Treasure House Within You: Why Most People Search Outside for What Lives Within.

    The Treasure House Within You: Why Most People Search Outside for What Lives Within.
    Jun 11 2026

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    In this episode of The New Ashla Podcast, Justin V. Gates and Michael Perry explore why so many people spend their lives searching outside themselves for peace, power, healing, validation, guidance, and identity, only to find that the emptiness eventually returns.

    Drawing from the idea of the “treasure house within”, this conversation examines how the deeper mind can become a bridge to wisdom, healing, creativity, intuition, and transformation. Through the teachings of Ashla, Justin frames this inner treasure as the Light within, the sacred current already present beneath fear, noise, old programming, and false identity.

    The episode explores why people look outward for what must first be awakened inwardly, how old impressions and limiting beliefs can make us feel powerless, and how spiritual practice, awareness, contemplation, affirmation, and right action help us cultivate the deeper self.

    At its heart, this episode is a reminder that you are not empty, broken, or powerless. The Light has not abandoned you. The treasure is not missing. You may simply have been searching in the wrong direction.


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    Keywords

    the treasure house within you, treasure house within, light within, inner wisdom, subconscious mind, Joseph Murphy, The Power of Your Subconscious Mind, Ashla, New Ashla Podcast, Justin V Gates, Michael Perry, spiritual growth, self mastery, inner work, subconscious programming, inner healing, spiritual awakening, inner power, divine guidance, higher self, greater self, lesser self, spiritual practice, meditation, prayer, affirmations, contemplation, inner sanctuary, intuition, personal transformation, healing old programming, spiritual alignment, the Force, the Light, Luminari
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    41 mins
  • Somatic Healing and the Wisdom of the Body

    Somatic Healing and the Wisdom of the Body
    Jun 9 2026

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    In this episode of the New Ashla Podcast, Michael Perry and Justin Gates explore somatic healing, nervous system release, and why understanding your pain intellectually does not always mean your body has fully let it go.

    You can read the books, go to therapy, name the wound, and understand exactly where your patterns came from, and still feel stuck in the same reactions.

    That does not mean you failed at healing.

    It may mean your body is still holding what your mind has already processed.

    In this episode, Michael and Justin dive into somatic healing and the role the body plays in trauma, chronic stress, emotional suppression, and nervous system regulation. They explore why unresolved experiences can live as tension, hypervigilance, numbness, emotional volatility, exhaustion, and automatic reactions long after the original event is over.

    This conversation is not about forcing an extreme emotional release. It is about learning how to come back into relationship with the body through breath, awareness, movement, honesty, and compassionate presence.

    Because healing is not only something we understand.

    It is something we integrate.

    • Somatic healing is about working with the body, not bypassing it.
    • Insight is important, but insight alone does not always create release.
    • The nervous system can hold unresolved stress as tension, posture, hypervigilance, numbness, or automatic reactions.
    • Your body is not resisting healing. It may be waiting to feel safe enough to complete what was never completed.
    • Emotional suppression can disconnect us from what the body is trying to reveal.
    • Movement, breath, sound, exercise, and mindful awareness can become healthy outlets for stored energy.
    • Somatic work does not have to be extreme to be powerful.
    • The body is not separate from the spiritual path. It is part of the whole being.
    • Healing asks us to bring compassion, patience, and awareness to the places we have neglected.
    • The goal is not to shame the body, fix the body, or overpower the body. The goal is to come home to it.
    1. My body is not my enemy. It is trying to communicate with me.
    2. I can listen to my body with patience instead of shame.
    3. I do not have to force healing. I can create safety for it.
    4. What I feel in my body deserves compassion and attention.
    5. I am learning to release what I no longer need to carry.
    1. Where does stress, fear, grief, or anger tend to show up in my body?
    2. What emotions have I learned to minimize, suppress, or explain away instead of fully feeling?
    3. What would it look like to treat my body as a partner in healing instead of something I need to overcome?
    • Gabor Maté and his work on emotional suppression, chronic stress, and the body-mind connection.
    • The broader idea behind The Body Keeps the Score, especially the way trauma and stress can live in the nervous system and body.

    somatic healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, body keeps the score, emotional release, stored trauma, chronic stress, embodiment, breathwork, body awareness, hypervigilance, emotional suppression, healing journey, New Ashla Podcast, Michael Perry, Justin Gates


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    28 mins
  • Guarding the Inner Temple: Protecting Your Mind from Fear, Noise, and False Impressions

    Guarding the Inner Temple: Protecting Your Mind from Fear, Noise, and False Impressions
    Jun 4 2026

    In this episode of The New Ashla Podcast, Justin V. Gates and Michael Perry explore what it means to guard the inner temple of the mind.

    Every day, thoughts, fears, memories, media, opinions, and old wounds try to enter the deeper mind. Over time, what we repeatedly accept begins to shape our emotions, beliefs, behavior, and identity. Drawing from the idea of the conscious mind as the “watchman at the gate,” this conversation explores how to protect the subconscious from false impressions without becoming fearful, closed off, or disconnected from life.

    Through the teachings of Ashla, Justin frames the mind as sacred ground. The Luminari must learn to guard that temple with awareness, discernment, truth, and Light. Not every thought deserves agreement. Not every fear deserves authority. Not every voice deserves residence within you.

    This episode dives into how suggestions become seeds, how fear-based messaging shapes the inner world, why discernment is different from paranoia, and how spiritual practice, affirmations, and right action can impress the deeper mind with truth instead of fear.

    At its heart, this episode is about reclaiming authority over your inner world.

    Guard the gate.
    Examine what enters.
    Cultivate what is true.
    And fill the inner temple with what is worthy of becoming you.




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    Keywords

    guarding the inner temple, watchman at the gate, subconscious mind, conscious mind, inner world, spiritual discernment, protecting your mind, mental discipline, fear based messaging, negative self talk, subconscious programming, inner temple, Ashla, New Ashla Podcast, Justin V Gates, Michael Perry, spiritual growth, self mastery, inner work, shadow work, thought patterns, emotional healing, subconscious impressions, affirmations, spiritual practice, truth and Light, guarding your peace, media influence, fear and anxiety, inner alignment, the Light, the Force, Luminari
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    38 mins
  • Boundaries Are Self-Love: Healing People-Pleasing, Guilt, and Resentment

    Boundaries Are Self-Love: Healing People-Pleasing, Guilt, and Resentment
    Jun 2 2026

    Boundaries are not about pushing people away. They are about learning how to stop abandoning yourself. In this episode, Michael and Justin explore people-pleasing, guilt, resentment, and why saying no can become one of the deepest practices of self-love.

    Episode Summary

    In this episode of The New Ashla Podcast, Michael Perry and Justin Gates explore boundaries as an act of self-love, self-respect, and truth. Rather than treating boundaries as rejection or selfishness, they frame them as a way of showing others where you actually are and what real relationship requires.

    The conversation focuses especially on people-pleasing, codependency, guilt, resentment, and the quiet ways we abandon ourselves while calling it kindness. Michael brings the psychological lens of shame, nervous system activation, and learned survival patterns, while Justin brings the spiritual lens of harmony, wholeness, truth, and dignity.

    Together, they unpack why saying yes when you mean no slowly creates resentment, how guilt can be an old pattern rather than proof you are doing something wrong, and why healthy relationships can adapt when you begin honoring your needs.

    • Key Takeaways
      • Boundaries are not about keeping people out. They help people know how to find and respect the real you.
      • People-pleasing may look like kindness, but often it is fear wearing the mask of compassion.
      • Every time you say yes when you mean no, you teach yourself that your needs matter less.
      • Resentment often comes from unspoken needs, swallowed truth, and repeated self-abandonment.
      • Guilt is not always a moral signal. Sometimes it is an old survival pattern being activated.
      • Healthy love does not require you to disappear in order to keep the relationship.
      • A boundary does not destroy a healthy relationship. It reveals whether the relationship can honor you.
      • Saying no clearly, calmly, and without overexplaining is a skill that takes practice.

      Keywords

      • Keywords: boundaries, self-love, people-pleasing, codependency, emotional healing, self-respect, guilt, resentment, healthy relationships, shadow work, nervous system, authenticity, spiritual growth, psychological healing, New Ashla, Path of Ashla, personal growth, emotional boundaries, saying no, self-abandonment.

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    35 mins